Today I decided to clean out my file cabinet and while doing so ran across an old notebook from 2009.  As I flipped through the pages, trying to decide if it was a keeper I paused, giggled then became teary eyed as I stared at a page filled with notes on all my Mister Wrongs.  I think at the time I was trying to figure out why I kept attracting losers.  Then I flipped the page and there was another long list, but this one was filled with the good qualities, or the traits I admired in all of the men I had ever dated.  Yeah, when you put all of their qualities together on paper they become the perfect man, well at least my Mr. Right.  It made me sit back and think about the past year and how I've been very selective when it comes to allowing men into my life.  I smiled at the high standards I have set for myself and then patted myself on the back for sticking to them!  Instead of wallowing in self-pity for not having a man or being miserable in a relationship that was no good for me, I survivied 2010 by focusing more on my career and my company and on me as an individual.  I  really learned how to celebrate myself and being a woman, qualities most men are looking for in their Mrs. Right.  And for the first time in my life I appreciated being alone when my kids went to visit their father and his new family.  You see, part of my problem in past relationships was that I always went from one guy to the next because I didn't like being alone.  But now...I relished the sound of peace & quiet and just sitting still, somethimes doing absolutely nothing!  In 2010 I became the woman I've always wanted to be, happy, peaceful and in love with me.  Now as I enter 2011, I'm embracing the new CJ with open arms and I think Mr. Right, when he comes along, will be delighted too.